We’re about to head into another week of work, and at the end, I get to see my girlfriend! (Although it was yesterday, the 20th, Happy Anniversary to my love, 2 years). I have work all five days, which isn’t too strange, however I only have a one-day weekend (which is today). I wanted to talk a little bit about being the creator of your own world, the author of your own story.
So many people I know let other people form the world they’re living. It could be parents, partners, or friends. I’ve been in friendships where I was merely just a second-hand character in their story. Believe it or not, that was totally acceptable with me. What wasn’t acceptable was that I pushed myself into a second-hand role for my own life. I worked to impress them and become a part of their inner circle. I missed out on months of development for myself, to shape the person I wanted to become. All of this happened when I was still forming who I was (to be fair, we’re always forming who we are all the time).
Similar to the “three strikes and you’re out” idea in baseball, it took me a third strike to get my act together. After three friendships that went awry, I finally got my stuff together and changed my world for a bit to benefit me, and only me. I stopped trying to do all of these specific things to get people to like me, and let people that already like me approach. I stopped trying to be all that on social media and gave up caring if I didn’t have a thousand followers to three hundred following, or if my snapscore wasn’t as high as someone else’s.
Now I could list all the things I did differently, but everyone lives their lives differently. Something that may have worked for me might not work for the next reader. It’s a trial and error to find the correct way to live. I was lucky that only a couple months passed until I found my person, because most people wait a lot longer.
So to get to the point of it, not everything will come your way after working on yourself. It’s most vital to be the main character of your own life story, because everyone else will most likely have themselves as the head of their stories. In the end, you may have people that support you no matter what, and that’s great. It’s more than great. But when it comes down to you and the other person (especially if they support you), there would surely be no offense when they hear you’d pick yourself over them, because they’d probably do the same thing.
I wanted to make sure I posted something to show proof of life, and hopefully I’ll get one more out before the end of the month. Cheers.
Today’s cover image is Miss Kitty, (one of) Eileen’s kitties.